Kat's April favorites!


So, as I said in one of my other posts, I really want to do two separate posts for my favorites and Harry’s favorites so, this post is all about the things I’ve been loving in April.

Deciding what things to put into a post all about my favorites can be quite difficult, especially as, because it’s a blog post rather than a youtube video, I don’t want it to go on forever so I've limited it for now to 5 things. Sometimes I think it's not enough but others I wonder how I'm going to find 5 new things I've been loving every month, but here are my top 5 for April!

1.      Game of Thrones. What can I say about this one? Sam and I were really late to the game with GOT. We had been talking about watching it forever but it was only really when we swapped from Virgin to Sky in February that we started watching it, and boy was we hooked! We were watching three or four episodes a night some nights but then would go a week without watching one because of Sam’s shifts, and no one wants to commit the ultimate sin of watching ahead without their partner. We got all caught up just after the first episode of season 8 aired and I’m getting really frustrated with having to wait to find out what is happening next. I think I might have to invest in the books and give them a read when its all over!
2.       Jordans Skinny Syrup.

             So, as you all know one of my goals for 2019 was to lose some weight. I faffed around for a                 couple of months and then mid-March I decided I needed help, so I joined slimming world.                 It hasn’t all been smooth for me and I still struggle with my sweet tooth some days but                         Jordans Skinny Syrups definitely help! My favorite and the first one I got is definitely the Mint Choc. Anybody who knows me knows that if I could only eat one thing for the rest of my life it would be Mint Choc Chip ice cream and its something I've really been missing on slimming world, especially with the warmer weather coming so when I found this in TK Maxx I was excited to try but also skeptical. IT IS AMAZING. I mix it into my 0%fat yoghurts and mix with some berries or I microwave a choc brownie fiber one bar for 30 seconds and have the yogurt mix with that. I also have the cinnamon vanilla syrup and it really helps with the sweet tooth!

3.       Fibre one popcorn bars. This is another slimming world one but more in the way that I wouldn’t have discovered these without slimming world and I now honestly think that I have eaten one almost every day in April – I use it as my Healthy Extra B mostly and eat it as a morning snack after my fruit and yogurt. They come in two flavors (as far as I know) Milk chocolate and peanut butter and I don’t have a favorite flavor honestly, they are both beautiful!

















4.       Grey’s Anatomy. I have watched a lot of TV this month. Feeling tired all month and being really busy has left me sitting in front of the TV looking for something to watch and I’m now finally on season 15 of Greys! I again was really late to the bandwagon with this one – I think I watched a couple of episodes of the spin-off private practice when I was at Uni but it wasn’t really until maternity leave that I decided to give Greys a go and I was obsessed. I binged the first 12 seasons then just kind of forgot about it. This month I have watched almost every single episode. I’m halfway through season 15 and I don’t want it to end!
5.       Hello fresh. I know Hello Fresh is hyped up a lot, especially by influencers on YouTube, which coincidentally how I first heard about it. I told Sam about it and he looked into it and we decided to give it a go. We haven’t looked back. The meals are beautiful and work well with just a few adjustments for my Slimming World. It’s also convenient for us as we don’t always have time to go out and do a food shop and we get to eat loads of different foods! We pay 29.99 per week for three meals for two people and at first, it seemed a little expensive but now we wouldn’t be without it!

Joining Slimming World!


So, I joined slimming world! I had been toying with the idea for a while umming and ahhing about if I was going to do it and I found a group close to me, so, after putting it off for a few weeks I plucked up the courage and went along.

I had been trying to lose weight on my own for a while and it just wasn’t working for me very well. I’m the kind of person that needs a plan, with motivation and lots of encouragement. I have next to no will power so I felt that slimming world would really help.

I looked at WW (Used to be weight watchers) but after talking to some people I felt that Slimming World was a better fit for me.

It took me a few weeks after I have made the decision to join slimming world to actually go because I was so nervous. I am embarrassed about how big I let myself get and felt like I was going to be judged for letting myself get that way.

I was still so nervous when I finally got into that room. Being the only new member that session probably didn’t help with the nerves.

The group I go to is honestly the most caring and considerate group. I instantly felt accepted and now know how stupid it was to worry about being judged. Honestly, everybody who goes to Slimming World is there do the exact same reason as I am. To lose some weight and have a healthier lifestyle.

I don’t go to Slimming World just to lose weight though. I go to help get a healthier relationship with food. Food has always been my comfort, especially in the days of my deep depression. My bad days mentally are the hardest for me but I’m definitely learning how to cope without binge eating whenever I feel down.

I’d like to do some more Slimming World posts on here so if you like these definitely keep your eyes peeled for them! Also if you are following Slimming World let me know your top tips for keeping on plan!

Harry's April Favourites!


Another favorites post – I’m going to try to do two of these every month; one for all of the things Harry has loved that month and one for all of the things I have been loving, so make sure you keep an eye out for my ‘April Favourites’ coming soon!

April has felt like it’s been a busy month for us. We’ve had a lot going on to be fair and so Harry has discovered lots of new things to love this month and even rediscovered some old loves too! Here are his top 5 in no particular order!

1.    Milk – What a strange thing to be put into a monthly favorites post! Who doesn’t love a nice cold glass of milk? Harry for some reason has been drinking milk like it's going out of fashion. For a couple of months, he really went off milk, not wanting to touch anything remotely milk like – We just about got him to eat some yogurts – and I was really getting worried about him not getting enough calcium, but lately, he is drinking milk nonstop. When offered a drink he will always ask for milk. He also can’t get enough of yogurts and cheese. Don’t need to worry about the calcium now!

2.    Chicco goal league – For Harry’s birthday this year he got this interactive goal from my dad and he is obsessed. It’s a great little toy keeping him active and encourages him to run and aim and all sorts of things. The goal itself has three settings, penalty shots which you can play 1 vs 1, golden goals which seems like a timed setting and then challenge. Harry loves the light and sounds. It comes with a very soft ball which makes it perfect for indoor play but its super lightweight (Harry can lift it and carry it around his room, we are constantly going to get him in the morning and it is in a different place then we left it the night before) and we are hoping it will be good in the garden in the summer too!

3.   Talking Mr. Tumble toy – When shopping for Harry’s main birthday present in Smyth’s toy store, Sam and I came across this and knew we had to get it for him! It has fast become his very favorite teddy. Mr. Tumble is the first thing we hear through the monitor in the morning letting us know Harry is awake. He will work his way through the phrases that Mr. Tumble says until he gets to the Something Special theme tune, which he then sings, and signs along to. Harry will find his Mr. Tumble whenever he can and sing the tune – Because we obviously need more Mr. Tumble in our lives!!

4.       Pizza – Has anyone noticed that there is always food in Harry’s favorites? To be honest he has always been a big eater and food has always been his favorite part of any day. Harry discovered a real passion for Pizza this month. I think it helps that he has almost learned to say pizza, but he has asked for pizza for his tea almost every day this month. His favorite seems to be Cheese and Tomato, but Harry will happily eat any pizza put in front of him.

5.    Peppa Pig 
It pains me to be putting Peppa Pig in a harry favorites. I was that mum swearing my child would never watch Peppa Pig. I feel that Peppa is rude to her parents – Well rude in general – and promotes bad behavior – Unfortunately Harry doesn’t seem to agree! I don’t really know where its all come from but Harry will happily sit and watch Peppa for hours if we let him and once it's turned off he will sign ‘pig’ while saying please – He’s really cute but I need to learn to say no once in a while!!
And those are the top 5 things Harry has been loving this month!!

What do your toddlers love?

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Three Years Of HARRY!!

I don’t know how it’s possible, but we have a three-year-old!

Harry turned three on Sunday the 31st of March, which this year also happened to be Mother’s day. I have to be honest at first I was not thrilled with losing out on ‘my day’ – especially when I don’t have another day all to myself as Sam and I share a birthday – But the more I thought about it the more special it felt to celebrate Mother’s day on the day I became a mother.

But let’s talk about Harry. I still cannot believe he is three!

I look at him now and I am amazed at how far he has come, from that tiny dot of a new-born who looked so fragile in the NICU crib we were scared to touch him, all the way to the little boy he is now – And I realised this weekend he is a proper little boy now – with a serious attitude and a cheeky grin that melts even the coldest of hearts. He is doing fabulously and all in his own Harry way.

I still remember finding out I was pregnant like it were yesterday.

I have never had regular periods, so when I had missed a few it didn’t sound any alarms for me. I was also tired all the time but had just started a new job so I put it down to that – Sam, on the other hand, knew something was different about me. I remember the weekend of our anniversary. We had taken a trip to London to celebrate and we were going to see one of our favourite comedians record his TV show – Dave Gorman’s Modern Life is Goodish if you were interested. I remember feeling unwell and exhausted all weekend but didn’t think much of it.
We had a great time but when we got home Sam kept on at me about taking a test – He was convinced I was pregnant. So, just to shut him up, a few days later I did.

'Oh shit,' I remember muttering - Or I thought I had muttered it, but apparently it wasn't quite as quiet as I thought because Sam came running in. The look on his face was somewhere in between smug and horrified. Smug because he was right (I never admit he is right) and horrified because I was pregnant. Not that we didn't want kids. We had discussed it when we realised we were serious and both knew we wanted two children, but the timing was HORRIBLE. I had just started a new job and Sam was only on a temporary contract in the job he was in. We discussed 'the other option' but I knew I couldn't do that. So we were having a baby. 

Little did we know what an adventure this would be!

You can read my birth story here - https://www.raisingharry.com/2017/07/birth-story.html

NICU was hard - Somehow we got through that too. (I remember drinking a lot of alcohol the night I had been discharged without Harry - Not something I would recommend!) 




On the 17th of April 2016, after 18 days in the hospital, we got to bring our amazing little boy home. During the time spent in the hospital he had endured endless blood tests, UV lamps and we got our T21 diagnosis. We didn't care. We were just excited to bring him home.

And then - The adventure really began! Here are a few of my favourite pictures from the last 3 years! (WARNING - there are A LOT of them!!)





































Harry's Current Favourites

In today's post I want to talk about some of the things Harry is loving at the moment.

It's crazy how fast his interests are changing at times. Somethings he really gets stuck on and others he is only interested in for a few weeks or months.

As you may know Harry is nearly 3 - Where did that go?! His personality is really coming out now and he isn't afraid to let you know when he doesn't like something or doesn't want to do something, but he is also really expressive when he enjoys something or wants something so at this stage, its been really easy to recognise what some of his favourite things are now.

1. Sausages.  Anyone who really knows Harry knows how much he loves food, so its not really surprising that the first thing on this list is a food item.
Harry's loved sausages from the first time he tried them. Every child has that one go to meal for when they just wont eat anything else, and for Harry that is definitely sausages, chips and beans. He loves the sausages and I have honestly never seen a child eat anything as fast as when Harry is eating sausages!

2. The Twirly-woos. Harry finally seems to have found something else to watch on the TV. I think Sam and I were really starting to get sick of Mr Tumble and PAW patrol that we were desperate to get Harry to even attempt something else - Not that Harry doesn't still love Mr T and PAW patrol. We are still objected to this most days as well - But when Harry saw the Twirly-woos it was instant and he screamed when we turned it off.
I sometimes question how many times a child can watch the same three seasons of a programme but it doesn't really seem to bother Harry that hes seen every episode 4 times already he will watch and watch. It has gotten to the point where me and Sam wish we had never put it on... But if Harry likes it, just like with Mr Tumble and PAW patrol he can always have it on. We just love to see him smile.

3. Alexa. I am extremely lucky that I have two Amazon Echos and so a few months ago we decided to put one of them in Harry's room as we spend a lot of time in there, and Harry is obsessed.
Its becoming a regular occurrence to hear him shouting 'LEXA' at the top of his voice. He does tend to get frustrated that she doesn't seem to understand his signing yet but we are hoping that this will also encourage his speech and getting him to talk more.

4. The Gruffalo.  I don't really know what to say about this one - Harry has always loved books but there is something about the Gruffalo that really excites him. The book is one of the only things that he will sit still and listen to all the way through.

5. Slides Harry has always been a big fan of the swings whenever we go to the park - and we have enough pictures to prove it! But since moving up to the toddler room at nursery and having access the 'the big garden' with a climbing frame and slide, he hasn't given swings a second look. Its all about the slides.
He's really independent with them too which used to terrify me, but now i love watching my little daredevil - he seriously has no fear and will just throw himself down the slide!

What are your toddlers favourites?

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Let's talk about bath time products

So today I wanted to talk about Harry's bath time products we use and why we use them. 

Bath time in our house is called 'splash splash'. Sam started this when Harry was really little and really hated a bath. He's never been a fan of getting a bath, and even now at nearly 3 he still hates having his hair washed.

Harry would scream the moment we put him in the water, sometimes even when he knew we were running him a bath. We tried to make it as easy as possible for him, we even got one of those changing tables with the bath in so he could be in the familiar surroundings of his bedroom but nothing helped, until he was able to sit up in the bath. There is something about being laid down in the bath that really gets to Harry.

Once he grew out of the changing table bath and was sitting up properly we started to put him in the proper bath and he started to enjoy bath time a little more and Sam started to teach him how to splash in the water - hence splash splash. 

We don't, and never have bathed Harry everyday. Its not recommended and Harry has extremely dry skin, something to do with the UV lamps he was under when he was first born to help with the jaundice. 

Harry generally has a bath every other day, unless he needs it more often. He does get a wash down every day but we try not to bath him too often as it can aggravate his skin making it drier and irritating for him. This is also why we have to be really careful with what products we use on him and in the bath.

We have tried a lot of different products in Harry's bath, but the best things we have found for him have been;

1. Bedtime bath - It hasn't ever matter what brand of this we use, Johnson's or a supermarket own brand it doesn't seem to affect his skin, which is obviously lovely, but we also have noticed how much this has actually been helping with his sleeping. On nights where Harry doesn't have a bath or if he has a bath without this in he doesn't seem to sleep as well. 
When we first used it we never thought it would make that much of a difference but he sleeps so much better using this and doesn't toss and turn in bed as much. We also use this as his soap as it works so well on his skin. 

2. Dove baby shampoo - This stuff is WOW! I use a lot of dove products myself but when I smelt this range I was obsessed. I don't know what it is about the smell of this but its amazing, which is reason enough to keep using it in my book, but we noticed when we started using this Harry's cradle cap, or dry skin on his scalp started to disappear and now he has none. Win Win in my book.

3. Childs farm moisturiser - I had heard so much about this range we decided to give it a go to try and help with Harry's skin. We use a tiny amount mainly on his legs and arms and again the smell of this is reason enough to buy it. I cant get enough of it.

4. Diprobase - Harry has aeriously dry skin on his face, especially if he has a cold or running nose. The GP prescribed diprobase for him and it helps to clear it up a lot. Its the only thing we reguarlly use on Harrys face and even Sam and I will steal a little if we are having a little trouble wth dry skin. Diprobase is also great for nappy rash and you can buy it over the counter at boots so we don't have to keep bugging the doctor about it.

More about me and where we started

I realise that some people who will read this will know me very well, where others will know nothing at all about me so I thought this week I would write a bit more about me.

So where to start...

So my name is Katherine, but if you call me that I won't answer. I'm Kat. I was born on the 10th of June 1992, which means as I write this I am almost 27.

I was born in East London and spent the first part of my childhood in Tottenham, North London. I am the oldest of 3, with a sister then a brother following after me.

We moved from North London to Peterborough when I was almost 10 after my grandparents on my dads side moved here and we all loved it when we visited. My mum had wanted to get out of London for the longest time.

When we first moved to Peterborough, I hated it. It was too quiet and I didn't know anyone. I had what all the kids at school thought was a hilarious accent and I hated feeling like an outsider. I joined the school at the beginning of year 6. It was a really small school full of kids who had literally grown up together and I was the new kid, but it wasn't long before I made some really good friends.

It didn't take long for me to start loving where we lived. My parents felt safer there and so gave me so much more freedom. I had never had kids 'call for me' before and never ever been able to 'play out' without adult supervision so I felt like I had a massive amount of freedom.

In the summer after year 7 we moved again to a different part of Peterborough and I had to change schools again. I again hated being the new girl but soon found some great friends.

When I was 17 I met Sam. He had been my brothers football coach and my dad was the assistant coach. I'm pretty sure my dad had been trying to set us up for a while, not that he will ever admit it.

We met at a summer BBQ for the football team and I really did not want to be there, then I met Sam. I have to say it definitely wasn't love at first sight or anything like that. We both got amazingly drunk and flirted ridiculously, with my mum and her friend egging us on. We exchanged numbers and when I left I honestly never thought I would see him again. He was leaving for university in the September.

So boy was I shocked when I woke up the next morning to a text from Sam asking if I would like to meet again. I said yes and we had a great day together. We both agreed that we weren't looking for anything serious and didn't think it would last once Sam went to Uni. Boy were we wrong.

We survived Sam going to Uni in Coventry, me moving to Norwich, Me going to Uni in Bolton and then me dropping out of Uni.

We decided to move in together once Sam had finished his degree and looked at all of our options. We had both loved being in Coventry and so we decided to move there. We lived in Coventry for exactly a year and it was the hardest year of our life, but we both agree now that it was the best thing we could have done for our relationship. Living away from all of our family meant that we learnt to work through any problems we had and grow as a couple.

It was just under a year after we moved back to Peterborough that we found out we were having Harry, and the rest is history!

12 books in 12 months - Book 1. Eve Of Man

So, I have set myself a little goal this year. I want to read 12 brand new books, so nothing I have read before.

Anyone who knew me before I had Harry knows I have always had my nose in a book. But since becoming a mum I seem to have forgotten everything I love about reading and I missed it. I missed the feeling when you get to a really good part of a book and you have no idea where its going, I missed the feeling of achievement when you get to the end of the book and the anticipation of waiting for the next instalment. I even missed the smell of the paper and the feel of the book in my hand (I don't think I will ever be an e reader girl - sorry!).

So this year I wanted to have all of these things again and remember why I loved reading so much and to be able to take the time to read a few chapters every so often. But I'm a mum now and to be honest I don't have the time to sit and devour all the books I want to so I wanted to come up with a realistic goal for this.

12 books in a year seemed doable, so that's what I decided to do.

The plan had been to read a new book every month, but January turned out to be super busy, both at work and home so I struggled to find the time or energy to do any reading.

I also struggled with finding the perfect new book to bring back that love again. I was really worried about picking a book and not enjoying it and so not carrying on with the whole thing because I would be so disappointed.

Then one day early February Sam came home with part of my Valentines day present - Eve of Man by Tom and Giovanna Fletcher. He knew I had been desperate to read it since it first came out and he knew I was trying to get back into reading so he even gave it to me early so I could get going.

And I COULD NOT PUT IT DOWN!

The whole idea of the book fascinated me. It sounded really up my street and Sam knew that too. I got started that very night and finished it a few nights later.

If you don't know the book is based on Eve who is the first girl born in 50 years anywhere in the world. The book starts just after Eve's sixteenth birthday as she is preparing to meet three 'potentials' one of whom she will need to start re populating the earth with. Of course like any good book it just doesn't work out that way and I was hooked. All of a sudden I was approaching the end of the book and was torn between needing to know what happens and not wanting to finish because it was just so good!

Obviously the need to know what happened won and I am now desperately waiting on the next book!

The story isn't the only thing about it that got me hooked. The writing was amazing - I have to confess I have never read anything by either Fletcher's but that will certainly be changing very soon! Another thing is how seamless the writing is - If i didn't know the book was written by two separate people I would have never been able to tell. I never felt like anything didn't fit.

The book reminded me of the hunger games and divergent series - both of which I love and have audiobooks of every book in both series and listen too on repeat and still love every single time. I have a feeling this trilogy will join them on my shelf of favourites - Along with the Harry Potter series of course!

So far my 12 books in 12 months has started brilliantly and left me looking forward to jumping into more books. I have a few books that I have had my eye on for a while so these should be coming up very soon!

Any book recommendations for me?

1 month in... Where I am with my 2019 Goals

Well, January is finally over. It can't just be me that feels like that was the longest month?
But its over now, and we are a full month into 2019 so I thought I would do an update of where I am with my personal 2019 goals!
1. Blogging more regularly has gone really well! I know its only a month but I'm really proud that I've managed to get a post up every Friday this month and fingers crossed I will continue to do so. I've really actually been enjoying having the routine of it all and I'm feeling great that I have a post up every week!
I feel like I blog differently to others where i will write the post down in a notebook first. I honestly have no idea why but this always works better for me. I've always been a pen and paper girl and its gone over into my blogging style although it is definitely more work, I can write and edit a blog post anywhere and never leave the house without my little blogging notebook and pen!
2. More organised? Well, I don't really know that I've seen much of a difference with this one. I still seem to run around like a headless chicken in the mornings trying to get everything ready for work, but I feel that I have more of a routine with Harry and getting things ready and I don't really seem to be forgetting anything anymore,  I suppose organisation will come with time. I'm also managing to actually get things done from my to do list instead of just writing a list and then never looking at it again. Lets hope I can improve even more as the months go on. I don't feel like I've got the most out of my bullet journal this month either so hoping to make sure I use this a bit more in the future.
3. I have completely failed at taking more pictures. I don't think I've turned my big camera on this whole month and I have very little new pictures on my phone. January is always a hard one for me with taking pictures but hey! Can't win them all. Let's try again next month!
4. Well..... The less said about this one the better. Moving on next month. Hopefully getting my bike sorted and gunna start taking Harry swimming when the weather warms up so that should help!
5. I've been feeling loads better mentally this month, and I think I have been taking more time to be Kat, rather then mummy all the time. It definitely helps that Sam and I have great supportive families that offer to have Harry so much! It kind of feels like Harry hasn't been home too much this month but I've managed to have good sleep and do little things for myself which is just what the doctor ordered.
How are you all doing with your goals? Do you think, now we are a month in they are realistic and achievable? Are you wishing you had made different goals?

5 things we will try to do in 2019

So this post is really similar to the 2019 goals post from a few weeks ago. That one was my personal goals, this one is things we want to achieve or do as a family in 2019.

We want to make this the best year so far for Harry. He's so much more aware of everything that's going on around him now, so we really want to have some fun and create great memories for not just Harry, but all of us.

Obviously we have more goals as a family but some of them are quite personal and not really something we want to be spreading all over the internet, but we do have some good ones that we are happy to share and hopefully with having them here we will be more encouraged to stick to them!

1. Take a holiday! This one I am determined to stick to this year. To be fair we are incredibly lucky that Sam's parents have a caravan on the Norfolk coast that we are able to use quite often - and we do- but the last holiday Sam and I took was for my 20th and his 22nd birthday - coming up 7 years ago now! So this year I really want to get away properly.
We are looking at North Cornwall for our birthday again this year. Cornwall is one of our favourite places to visit in the UK and we are so excited to be taking Harry there to show him the beautiful scenery and of course all of our favourite little places.
We have plans for our holiday next year to somewhere much more exotic but as Harry and I don't have passports and have never been abroad we felt that Cornwall was the perfect destination for our first proper family holiday, but watch out for next year!

2. Spend more time together without electronics. We rely far too much lately on the TV, Harry's tablet and our phones, especially as a way to keep Harry entertained when Sam and I have has a long day at work and just want to relax - The joys of working full time as a parent - but we want to make an effort to spend some real quality time with Harry without being sat in front of the TV or giving him his tablet. Then again I would really love an excuse not to have to hear the Twirlywoo's or Baby Shark again! We want to spend the little time we have together as a family going to the park, taking walks or even just playing with Harry in his bedroom or the garden and  we have a few exciting day trips planned for the summer. Sam's goal is for Harry to love being outdoors as much as he does as he doesn't seemed to be able to get me to enjoy it quite that much. He's also majorly excited that Harry is loving kicking a ball around lately and has big plans for the summer for the two of them.

3. Don't make everything about spending money This one is defiantly one for Sam but if I'm honest mostly me. I'm the spender in the family and always seem to think the more money I spend the more fun everyone is going to have - which is definatly not the case. As Sam and I approach our 10 year anniversary - How is that even possible? - I think back to the days we've had that we've enjoyed most, and honestly some of our best days have been when we don't spend a lot, with things like picnics - which is one of my favourite things to do- or even for a walk with a coffee and an ice cream. Its harder in the winter to think of cheap or free things to do because lets face it I don't want to take Harry out in the freezing cold all the time but sometimes going for a chilly winter walk is the best!

4. Save Money! Who doesn't have this as a goal 99% of the time? I suppose this one follows on from the last. Sam and I have no savings - literally zero. For the first few years living together we really struggled and basically lived pay check to pay check, getting into all sort of money troubles that we are slowly clawing our way out of due to one thing or another like being on maternity pay and paying for childcare. There was just nothing to spare.
We are now finally n a place where we can live somewhat comfortably and have a little spare money and would like to put some of this away for a rainy day. We would also like to be completely debt free - isn't that the dream? And eventually save to buy our own house. We want to make sure Harry has everything he needs and we can give him the best opportunities and experiences.

5. Live a healthier lifestyle. This one doesn't really apply to Harry because for some reason we have always been quite health conscious when it comes to what Harry eats, and he definitely gets enough exercise running around like a headless chicken all day everyday, but Sam and I seem to have fallen into a rut again with food and I get next to no exercise - at least Sam has a physical job.
But we are making a real conscious decision to make healthier choices. I'm not saying that it means there will be no more McDonalds. They just won't be happening as often!

Why sometimes being a mum SUCKS

I love being a mum. Honestly. I love waking up in the morning hearing Harry calling for me through the monitor (yes we still use a monitor, I'm paranoid) and seeing his little face light up. I love having him run to me with a massive smile on his face and watching him grow and develop.

Being a mum has taught me so much. Taught me how much it is possible to love someone and how little I knew about love and sacrifice before Harry came along. 

But sometimes, being a mum sucks.

I know, I know, I'm not supposed to say that. I'm supposed to keep on about how amazing it is and how I wouldn't change it for the world. And it is. And I wouldn't.

But it still really sucks sometimes. 

I became a mum at 23. I was nowhere near ready to look after another human being, I could barely look after myself. Becoming a mum forced me to grow up and quickly at that.

Being a mum means I can't be selfish. I can be spontaneous anymore, not that I ever really was, but before Harry, I had that option. I can't just wake up in the morning and decide I want to go out all day, I can just decide to nip to the pub with friends after work because I need to make sure someone is there for Harry. I always need to have things planned well in advance and even then they might not happen because my babysitter falls through or Harry becomes ill. My leaving the house depends on so much now, where it never used to depend on anything.

When I became a mum, I was over the moon, but I couldn't help feeling that I had lost my freedom.

I also really struggled with finding a balance between 'Mummy' and 'Kat'. For so long I didn't understand that there was a difference. But there is, and I am more than just Mummy. I am also more than just Kat but for the longest time I felt like I had changed into a mummy, I had completely lost my identity. I still struggle with the balance sometimes but I am making more of an effort to really embrace the Kat in me. Work certainly helps with that, but I'm pretty sure that my work friends are sick of hearing my Harry stories because let's face it, I don't really have much else to take about.

The pressure to be a perfect mum made parenting so much harder. I had pressure from right when I first found out I was pregnant. But its never good enough. Breastfeed, bottle feed, wean at 4 months, wait until 6 months, don't use this, don't do that.

And then there is the money side of it. Kids are expensive. Like really expensive. It's not just the nappies and wipes and milk and clothes, it's the childcare fees and the gas bill that shoots up because you have to now keep your house at a certain temperature to make sure the baby is healthy. It's not having enough money to buy yourself the desperately needed clothes because once again your child has gone through a growth spurt and none of his clothes fit him.

If we didn't have Harry, Sam and I would be in such a better situation financially. Thankfully Harry now gets free hours at nursery and the bill is slowly decreasing, but when I first went back to work I was pretty much working to pay his childcare. I will always be a big advocate for nursery and would never dream about taking Harry out of nursery because they have truly been and continue to be an amazing support for not only Harry but us as well as parents who clearly have no idea what we are doing. But gosh it's expensive.

I know this post has seemed really negative about being a parent, but I don't want to lie. I don't want to pretend being a mum is all rainbows and kittens because it really isn't. There are some days when I sit there and think, I just can't do this anymore. Your life is not your own anymore and its something that when thinking about having a child you really have to be willing to accept.

There are some truly magical moments being a mum, and these make the sucky moments worth it. 

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